Five Things A Gossip Does…
1. A Gossip feeds on the faults of others, to boost their own perceived strengths.
People who feed on the shortcomings of others are only wanting to feel better about themselves.
Have you ever heard this excuse from someone?
“Well they did it too!”
As if someone else’s actions, excuses them from their actions. That is a quick sign of someone without honor, respect, or responsibility for their actions.
Everyone else may have been doing whatever, but that still doesn’t justifies their actions, nor yours, nor mine, and especially when those actions wrong someone or destroys their character.
Gossips suffer from insecurity, and its their insecurity that needs to be affirmed, but they think that putting another person’s faults down will lift them up.
2. A Gossip loves a secret… but only to tell it.
Gossips love to and can’t help but to share that secret.
Their favorite line to you will be, “Just tell me, I won’t tell anyone.”
They way you will know whether or not they will tell anyone is to think for a moment and considered if they have been talking about someone to you.
If they have, they will never keep a secret.
If they will talk to you about someone; they will talk to someone about you.
3. Gossips stir up trouble and sit back, to cover their own issues.
Their’s is the art of misdirection.
A gossip doesn’t value the truth that love covers a multitude of sin, and to always speaks the best of someone.
Gossips won’t do that, instead they will talk to someone about someone and sit back while those two someones go at it.
In the day of Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, LinkedIn, etc., there are so many ways for people to stir the pot to get someone in a contentious fight with someone else
One such person I know’s favorite phrase is, “Oh I’m not saying this, I just heard someone say it….” Then they go about telling that delicate morsel so that people who are hurting can tear into each other.
The reason they do such is because they want a diversion to hide their true motives and intentions, and in part also, to hide their hurts that are in their heart.
4. Gossips are never truly repentant.
Someone who is guilty of gossiping over and over are NEVER repentant about it. Remember that! They see no wrong in what they’ve done.
Gossips watch time and time again the pain their words cause to those around them. They watch people get hurt and bruised due to harsh words and never allow that pain to touch their heart.
Another favorite line they love in this day is, “I hate drama.”
In reality they love it, and the way we know it is they are always in the middle of the drama, or just on the outside.
If they hated it so much they would remove themselves from it.
5. Gossips are impatient for a reaction and a stroke to their ego.
Gossips never understand the depth of love they should give to someone, and do it whether or not they receive something back.
Since they never give it, they never benefit from the love that comes back.
Life is made of principles and one of the founding principles of all life on this Earth is sowing and reaping.
If you sow love, you’ll reap love; but the reaping process may take time for it to germanate and grow.
Gossips can’t wait that long for a harvest. They are impatient for a quick response.
They dig up the earth around them to find and devour the seeds that are already there and in doing so eat their own harvest and have no reward.
So here’s some great advice to everyone:
First don’t be a gossip! If you are one, QUIT hurting people and in the long run hurting yourself.
Love them even when they have hurts, short comings, faults, and for everything else that makes them like you… human.
In doing so, you come to realize you are hurt to, and when you move from gossip to honestly confessing to people your own hurts, healing can begin.
Secondly, if you know someone around you is a gossip… RUN!
let them go. They will only drag you down, and they aren’t worth the drain on your life.
You’ll be shocked at how soon you will ask yourself, “Why did I hang out with them?”
If they aren’t adding to your life, they are taking from your life.
Be a person who is a contributor… not a consumer! Be a contributor and you will soon find yourself surrounded with contributors.
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